Anna “Nesey” Gallons, a musician who has been associated with the Athens, Georgia-based Elephant 6 collective since the 2000s, made an Instagram post on July 9 accusing Neutral Milk Hotel bassist Julian Koster of grooming her as a teenager and sexually assaulting her.
“I began communicating by telephone and corresponding via email with Julian Koster routinely in early Y2K at age 15, each exchange gradually becoming more intimate, though seemingly innocent,” Gallons wrote. “He imparted the notion that our connection was like none he had ever known. … He invited me to visit him in New York, had no qualms letting me have cannabis and stare dreamily into his eyes of him. Less than a year later, in April 2001, about six weeks before I turned 17, that relationship became sexual. This, by all common definitions, constitutes 'grooming.'” She further alleged that he assaulted her twice in the summer of 2005.
In a statement posted on Instagram on July 11, Koster conceded the basic details of their past relationship, which he characterized as consensual, but strongly denied any assault occurred. “This is painful and scary to share,” Koster wrote. “I have been the victim of intimidation, manipulation, and abuse by Nesey Gallons for many years. Nesey's recent statements are part of a campaign against me, which is documented in thousands of disturbing, abusive, and obsessive messages.”
Koster continued: “Nesey and I entered a consensual relationship in 2001, which continued until 2008. When the relationship began I was 28 and Nesey was 16, just before her 17th birthday. Though this put her over Georgia's legal age of consent when our relationship began, it was wrong to allow the relationship to happen at all and I've apologized to Nesey many times for that. I should have been more responsible about the age gap, but I deny all the other accusations she's made.”
In her initial posts, Gallons wrote that she kept the alleged assaults a secret and supported Koster's career, but that Koster distanced himself from her in late 2008. “I felt compelled to protect my friends in the [Elephant 6] community and our fans, holding to that until 2020 when the first utterances of this story escaped my shattered lips in any capacity that named names, and was quickly silenced once I was approached with the possibility of reconciliation, and then erased by his eager PR team,” Gallons wrote.
She added that she did get some support from members of the Elephant 6 community, which includes Neutral Milk Hotel as one of its key acts. She also asked Neutral Milk Hotel frontman Jeff Mangum in the post why he didn't speak out.
“The point of this is to find peace and move on,” Gallons wrote. “I'm so done with this nonsense, and ready [to] start living.”
Koster's statement presented a very different version of recent events, which he characterized as a manipulative and abusive pattern of behavior by Gallons and her spouse. He alleged that his efforts were “to listen to [Gallons] and acknowledge the pain that she feels” has led to “increasingly disturbing behavior on the part of both Nesey and [her spouse]including thousands of threatening and manipulative messages, which are meant to punish me for not agreeing to what they want. In these messages, they've demanded that I be in a romantic relationship with them, marry Nesey, move in with them away from my friends and family, finance their living expenses, and let them control me, emotionally, physically, and sexually. They have repeatedly threatened to harm me or themselves if I do not 'obey' them…. I have lived in fear for years and I am no longer able to tolerate being abused and controlled.”
Koster added that he is seeking a protection order against both of the Gallons.
In response to a comment in which the poster said they found Koster's music inspirational, Gallons agreed. “My love for Julian has simultaneously been life saving and killing me, despite some of his actions there is no denying he has a beautiful mind and soul, and creates beautiful inspiring art,” she wrote. “The dark parts complicate things but nothing can change the reality that he is truly luminous. No one in the world has ever loved him more than I have and still do.”
